So I was looking at things on Tumblr earlier and it was giving me all of these positive feelings about Davey Havok, who isn't someone who comes across my radar very often anymore, but who is really great. He wears glitter and has great hair! I didn't have the same understanding of stuff in middle school that I do now but his whole persona is very queer and enticing. Also, it was this tiny little Q&A he did with Rolling Stone that a friend pointed out to me that introduced me to Straight Edge, for which I am incredibly greatful.
I think what my point is that we don't have to grow out of our heroes. It's true that I don't listen to AFI as much as I did when I was fourteen, but that doesn't mean they I don't care. We can carry our heroes with us. There's one impulse to leave behind "childish things" as we move on, but I think it makes more sense to keep them around. They may not mean the exact same thing, but they still mean something special to us.
So thanks, Davey Havok. When I was fourteen you were the best thing ever, and now that I'm older, you're still pretty great.